Problems of Sexual Desire & Treatment – Understanding Low Desire, Causes & Effective Solutions

Sexual desire is a natural part of human life. It is closely connected to emotional well-being, physical health, confidence, and relationship satisfaction. When desire reduces or disappears, it does not just affect intimacy — it affects self-esteem, relationships, mental peace, and overall quality of life.

Problems of sexual desire are far more common than people realize. Men and women of all ages experience phases where sexual interest decreases, becomes inconsistent, or completely fades. Unfortunately, due to embarrassment, fear, or lack of awareness, many people suffer silently instead of seeking professional help.

At City Sex Counselling & Therapy Center, under the expert care of Dr. Ambekar M S (MD, MSD) with over 40 years of experience, we help individuals and couples across Mumbai, Nashik, Aurangabad, Ahmednagar, Malegaon, and throughout Maharashtra understand the reasons behind low sexual desire and restore a healthy, natural interest in intimacy.

Low desire is not a personal failure. It is a treatable condition.

What Are Problems of Sexual Desire?

Problems of sexual desire refer to a persistent or recurring lack of interest in sexual activity. It may involve reduced thoughts about sex, decreased urge for intimacy, or avoidance of sexual contact despite emotional bonding.

Sexual desire problems can affect:

• men
• women
• married couples
• unmarried individuals
• young adults
• middle-aged and older adults

Desire problems are not limited to age or gender. They can appear at any stage of life.

Common Ways Desire Problems Appear

People experience desire problems differently. Some common patterns include:

• no interest in sex at all
• interest exists but disappears during intimacy
• desire present occasionally but inconsistent
• desire exists mentally but body does not respond
• avoiding intimacy despite loving the partner
• feeling pressured rather than interested
• loss of excitement or anticipation
• emotional closeness without physical desire

These patterns often create confusion, guilt, and misunderstanding between partners.

Why Sexual Desire Is Important in Relationships

Sexual desire plays a key role in emotional bonding, intimacy, and relationship satisfaction. When desire is healthy:

• partners feel wanted
• emotional closeness increases
• stress reduces
• self-confidence improves
• bonding strengthens

When desire problems persist, couples may experience:

• emotional distance
• frustration
• frequent misunderstandings
• feelings of rejection
• self-doubt
• relationship stress

Addressing desire problems helps restore balance and harmony.

Causes of Low Sexual Desire

Sexual desire is influenced by a combination of physical, psychological, emotional, hormonal, and lifestyle factors. Identifying the exact cause is essential for effective treatment.

Physical and Medical Causes of Low Desire

Many medical conditions directly affect sexual desire. Common physical causes include:

• hormonal imbalance
• low testosterone in men
• hormonal fluctuations in women
• thyroid disorders
• diabetes
• high blood pressure
• chronic illness
• obesity
• fatigue
• pain or discomfort during sex
• side effects of medications

When the body is not functioning optimally, desire naturally reduces.

Psychological and Emotional Causes

Mental and emotional health strongly influence sexual desire. Common psychological causes include:

• stress
• anxiety
• depression
• work pressure
• financial stress
• fear of performance
• past sexual trauma
• negative sexual experiences
• body image issues
• guilt or shame related to sex

Mental overload often suppresses sexual interest.

Relationship-Related Causes of Desire Problems

Even when physical health is normal, relationship factors can reduce desire. These include:

• unresolved conflicts
• poor communication
• emotional neglect
• lack of trust
• feeling unappreciated
• constant arguments
• sexual incompatibility
• routine and monotony

Desire often reflects the emotional state of the relationship.

Lifestyle Factors That Reduce Sexual Desire

Modern lifestyle habits play a major role in lowering sexual interest. Common contributors include:

• irregular sleep
• excessive screen time
• pornography addiction
• excessive masturbation
• smoking
• alcohol consumption
• lack of exercise
• poor diet
• sedentary lifestyle

These habits affect hormones, energy levels, and mental health.

Sexual Desire Problems in Men

Men often assume they should always have high sexual desire. When desire reduces, it can deeply affect confidence. Common male-specific factors include:

• low testosterone
• erectile dysfunction anxiety
• premature ejaculation fear
• work stress
• performance pressure
• pornography dependency
• exhaustion
• aging-related hormonal changes

Men may avoid intimacy due to fear of failure, which further reduces desire.

Sexual Desire Problems in Women

Women experience desire differently, often linked closely with emotional safety and comfort.

Common female-specific causes include:

• hormonal changes
• stress from household or work responsibilities
• lack of emotional connection
• painful intercourse
• past trauma
• body image concerns
• fear of pregnancy
• lack of sexual education

When emotional needs are unmet, desire naturally reduces.

Sexual Desire Problems in Indian Context

In Indian society, sexual desire is rarely discussed openly. Many people grow up with:

• limited sexual education
• shame around sexual thoughts
• belief that desire is wrong
• lack of communication skills

As a result, many individuals feel confused, guilty, or abnormal when desire changes. At our clinic, we focus on normalizing conversations around desire and offering scientific clarity.

Signs You Should Seek Treatment for Desire Problems

You should consider professional help if:

• lack of desire persists for months
• relationship is being affected
• intimacy feels forced
• emotional distance is increasing
• guilt or anxiety is present
• partner feels rejected
• self-confidence is reducing
• quality of life is affected

Early treatment leads to faster and better recovery.

Our Approach to Treating Problems of Sexual Desire

At City Sex Counselling & Therapy Center, we treat desire problems with a holistic, personalized, and ethical approach. We do not offer shortcuts or superficial solutions.

Detailed Evaluation and Diagnosis

Treatment begins with understanding:

• medical history
• hormonal status
• mental health
• relationship dynamics
• lifestyle habits
• sexual history

This ensures treatment targets the root cause, not just symptoms.

Medical Treatment When Required

If low desire is caused by medical issues, appropriate treatment is provided, such as:

• hormonal regulation
• testosterone optimization (when needed)
• treatment of underlying illnesses
• medication review and adjustment

Medical treatment is always safe and evidence-based.

Psychological Counselling and Therapy

Counselling helps individuals and couples:

• reduce stress and anxiety
• overcome guilt and fear
• heal past trauma
• improve self-confidence
• understand desire patterns
• rebuild emotional connection

Counselling often plays a key role in restoring desire.

Couple Counselling for Desire Mismatch

When partners have different levels of desire, misunderstandings are common. Couple counselling helps:

• improve communication
• remove pressure
• set realistic expectations
• rebuild emotional intimacy
• develop mutual understanding

Desire often improves when pressure reduces.

Sexual Education and Awareness

Correct information makes a huge difference.

We help patients understand:

• normal variations in desire
• difference between spontaneous and responsive desire
• impact of stress and emotions
• myths vs reality
• realistic expectations about intimacy

Knowledge reduces fear and confusion.

Lifestyle Modification Guidance

We guide patients toward:

• healthy sleep routine
• stress management techniques
• balanced diet
• physical activity
• reducing pornography dependency
• limiting alcohol and smoking
• improving work-life balance

Small lifestyle changes create big improvements in desire.

Why Choose City Sex Counselling & Therapy Center?

Over 40 Years of Experience

Dr. Ambekar M S has treated thousands of patients with desire and intimacy issues.

Confidential and Respectful Care

Your privacy is always protected.

Medical + Psychological Expertise

Comprehensive care under one roof.

Indian Cultural Sensitivity

We understand social conditioning and emotional challenges.

Multiple Locations Across Maharashtra

• Mumbai
• Nashik
• Aurangabad
• Ahmednagar
• Malegaon

Personalized Treatment Plans

Every individual is treated uniquely.

Results Patients Commonly Experience

After treatment, patients often report:

• improved sexual interest
• better emotional bonding
• increased confidence
• reduced anxiety
• improved relationship satisfaction
• better quality of life

Sexual desire can be restored naturally with the right approach.

Myths About Sexual Desire Problems

• “Low desire means loss of love” - Desire and love are different.
• “Nothing can be done” - Most desire problems are treatable.
• “Only aging causes low desire” - Young people also experience it.
• “Talking about it is embarrassing” - Silence causes more harm.

When Is the Right Time to Seek Help?

The right time is now — when desire problems begin affecting mental peace or relationships. Waiting often makes recovery slower.

Take the First Step Toward Restoring Desire

Problems of sexual desire are common, treatable, and nothing to be ashamed of. With correct diagnosis, counselling, and medical care, desire can return naturally and relationships can heal.

Your well-being, confidence, and intimacy matter — and professional help can make the difference.